Last Updated June 2018
While I was wandering around trying to come up with ways to get out of being a responsible parent today, I started thinking about why someone would want to start a blog.
Have you ever seriously considered starting a blog? It actually takes a fair amount of guts to put yourself out there in such a potentially revealing way. Lucky for me, I was born with just enough intestinal fortitude and reckless abandon to carry on. (It helps counter all that fear of failure nonsense.)
This blog is the equivalent of an extremely needy newborn and all, how can I have any valid thoughts at all on starting a blog? Lucky for me (and you!), I actually started blogging way back in the olden days of the blogosphere, about 10 years ago.
At that time, my blog was (believe it or not) a blog about infertility. The group of women that I ultimately bonded with over our common struggles is still social media “family” nearly a decade later!
As my life changed, it became a lot less about the struggle and grind of infertility and a lot more about the rigors of parenting young children. The drive to put those thoughts down eventually just took a back seat to everything else. I needed to wrap my mind around how to balance my full-time job as a medical technologist (working crazy hours), manage my own anxiety levels (different type of crazy), and figure out how to take care of twin boys (the first year was so crazy, I don’t remember most of it).
Now we’ve reached 2018. The year that blogging became a thing again. (Oooh, that might become my new personal tagline.)
We are quite possibly busier than we’ve ever been! New baby, new house, new skills to learn around this little piece of land.
Balance is still being worked on- but now I have the overwhelming joy and fatigue of being a stay at home parent. Still crazy hours, worse pay, incredible benefit program. Anxiety levels have come down so far that it feels like that monkey has been caged at last. (I mean, a good round of influenza or Ebola will still have my heart rate up and my husband laughing).
Lastly, instead of two newborns and two new parents, we are up to six beautiful kiddos and two exhausted but pretty well-seasoned parents. Whole. New. Ballgame.
So let’s talk about some good and bad reasons someone might want to start a blog when they are crazy busy in ‘real life’. After all, this is just one more thing to fit into an already ridiculous schedule, right?
Good Reason to Start a Blog
Adultiness- yeah, that’s a word I’m going to use to describe blogging to escape to the glorious land of adults. When you’re here, you’re probably not talking to toddlers about why, for the love of all things holy, they may not watch another episode of Paw Patrol. Why they really do have to wash their hands after wiping their bottoms. Why they need to put clothes on right now because we are already 27 minutes late to pick up their brothers! There are real adults on blogs. Somewhere out there, there’s someone living a life a lot like yours that is writing a kick-butt blog about their adventures, successes, failings. They are writing it to reach people like you for more connections, deeper understanding of their own worlds, or hoping to expand someone’s world.
Duty Escapism- “Sorry honey, can’t change that nasty diaper… my new blog’s a-waiting and I can’t let it down!” -yeah, just trying to escape from our responsibilities, though tempting….not sustainable past the first days of excitement when you might be able to get away with it.
Finding a community- In this so-called land of blogging adults, there are people who share common goals, life skills, fears, and joys as you. You might even get to talk to some of them or make a difference in their lives! It does require reaching out, commenting, and becoming more interconnected. These are good life skills to acquire, even if they are easier for some people than others to come by. This applies especially to some of the more introverted of us. You can be shy and be a great blogger. You might think you’re shy, start a blog and realize you have something today that other people actually want to read about. Finding your own voice is an awesome bonus to this whole blogging business.
Infiltrating a community- “I’m going bring that circle of pet platypus bloggers down so fast, they won’t know what hit them! Platypus(ses??) be damned!” Don’t target the platypus people. The platypus people are awesome.
Earning a side income- It’s totally ok to start a blog with the idea that you hope to make money to support yourself and or your family off of it.
Chase the dream and tell naysayers to take a hike. Believe in yourself and your dream.
For lots of families, even just a little bit of extra every month would go a long way to helping make ends meet and blogging is the way they do that. That’s awesome!
There are a million ways to monetize and promote a blog. In this part, I’m definitely still a baby blogger. There’s a lot to learn and most of us aren’t born as marketers and self-promoters.
Thankfully there are a million resources out there to help you with this.
Expecting to make your first cool million as an overnight success. There are some incredibly successful bloggers out there. They worked hard to get where they are at – their articles and followings definitely did not just fall out of the sky. So reach for the stars, but prepare to get there by bus; with lots of stops and smelly diesel fuel exhaust fumes along the way.
As a parent, or full-time employee, or both- we are so busy doing things for other people, that you can get to the end of the day and realize you didn’t eat lunch, or you didn’t get a shower, or you haven’t had three consecutive minutes where someone wasn’t climbing all over you. ( I include husbands in that. 😝 )
This is an outlet for you to take a little timeout for you. Evaluate what’s working, what’s not. Drink coffee and take a breather. Sometimes that means typing up a post in the bathroom while you hide from your kids… Just sayin.
What is Stopping You?
If you’ve ever wanted to start blogging- what’s stopping you? If you have reasonable expectations, needs of finding a community that gets you, or desire to help make ends meet for your family- start now! The worst that can happen is… well I’m not sure what the worst that can happen is. I’ve never put myself out there quite like this before – I’m having a blast, it’s a little scary, but such a great outlet for all the creative juices that have been backed up for a while.
It’s the fun of starting to ‘meet’ new bloggers, getting to talk about things that make other people laugh, or showing someone another one of the million ways to do something, maybe even changing someone’s life with a thought or revelation. You just never know.
Am I making ends meet for our family with this new little project? Nope, not even remotely. I’m not here to blow smoke and convince you that in the first three weeks of having a new blog you’re definitely going to be turning heads and making bank. But hopefully, with a little work and a little luck, you’ll be having fun, enjoying new perspectives, and learning about yourself in the process.
I’m looking forward to reading your new blog after this inspirational post. Feel free to leave it in the comments so I can check it out. If you need any other resources, I’d be happy to help point you in the right direction!
To Get You Started on Your Blogging Journey
Here are two of my personal favorites!
- Elna Cain of www.twinsmommy.com has put together an absolutely amazing and all-encompassing beginner blogger course called Ready, Set, Blog for Traffic. I can not recommend this one enough! I could probably go through it twelve times and learn new things. Blogging can be an overwhelming monster.
- Somehow, early on, I stumbled over this incredible, no BS blogging boot camp run by Paul Scrivens of The Billionaire Blog Club. This one is a no-brainer. It’s free and FULL of great information.
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