In Honor of Father’s Day
Obviously, I can’t speak to what it feels like to be a father. I’m not one. But if you asked me off hand, I’d say that being a father means being able to sleep all the way through the night and not hear a dang thing.
Possibly that’s just my overly literal interpretation of my spouse’s experience of fatherhood.
To My Husband
To see my husband become a father has been such an incredible blessing and gift. Not to get all sappy or anything, but prepare now for this to get sappy.
I joke around a lot that he is “The Law” of our family. It’s the truth. Without him, I am 99% sure that everything would fall apart. Some days, I am certain that it’s through God’s grace alone that I hold it together, and whatever’s left is because of my husband, Ken.
The first time he admitted that he had a real ‘dad’ moment after our twins were born, was when one of our newborn twins started throwing up while lying on his back. The baby then started choking on the throw-up. In those few terrifying new parent moments, when he was desperate to hear his child clear his airway and start breathing again, my husband’s feeling of fatherhood began.
His actual fatherhood was instilled long before this. Truly, even before he was actually made a father by earthly definitions, being a father was part of who he had always aspired to be. Sometimes, that meant being a father-figure to kids who needed a little guidance and direction in their lives. Sometimes, that meant being the “Fun uncle” to his nieces and nephews; always making sure they knew how loved they were.
One of the things I fell in love with, was seeing his nieces and nephews with him, how much they adored him. How he was never afraid to be silly and get down and play on their level. I knew that he would make a great dad someday.
I wasn’t totally wrong.
Our boys and our daughter could not ask for a better daddy.
Though, to be fair, I did once hear him whisper to his newborn daughter:
“The boys are all scared of me, and I’m going to be scared of you!”
Even after having five little boys, he was absolutely thrilled and terrified to be bringing home a daughter.
He talked about this excitement and fear to anyone who would listen.
I frequently remind him that he won’t be dealing with teenage hormones and angst alone (God-willing) and that no matter what, he will be a great daddy to his daughter.
Seeing him play with the kids, engage them, and love them, is such a precious gift. He is far from perfect (but hey, me too!) but every day he is working hard to support them, love them, and come home and be silly with them. That’s a tall order!
To my Husband on Father’s day – Happy Father’s Day. We all love you and are so very blessed to have such a great Father and man in our lives. Thank you for being the spiritual leader of our household and emulating true manliness and fatherhood to our children.
To My Dad
I’m publically writing you a little Father’s Day letter. Clearly, I’m too cheap to buy you a card and send it. What a terrible daughter.
Thank you for being such an incredible example of a good father in my life.
I love that you’ve always encouraged us to be better humans than we are now. You have always shown that we can grow and change and be the people that God wills us to be. You were the primary teacher of our faith. Watching you and mom grow in your faith has had a profound impact on mine and my family’s. The lessons you have passed on are evergreen and have the power to echo through eternity.
I love that you have always shown your love. You’ve never been afraid or reticent in telling us how much you love us. More importantly, you’ve always shown us how much you love us through hundreds of little acts of kindness, and support. It’s always been in the details.
I absolutely love being able to geek out with you. There are only so many people in the world that I can share my simultaneous love and fear of volcanoes, earthquakes, tsunamis, and tornadoes with. When I came to your house and you gave me an entire reference book on volcanology – well, obviously, I felt LOVED. Because volcanoes are the coolest. Going to see that movie where everyone dies from virus together? Not that cool, because viruses are terrifying!
You are one of the most intelligent, knowledge-hungry people I’ve ever known. Your desire to learn about the world, stay up on current events, and read, read, read is something that has been instilled in all of your children. Even the ones that aren’t as cool as me.
I totally put that in there to see if any of them actually read this.
Happy Father’s Day to a Dad who has given far more than he knows and continues to enrich the lives of his children and grandchildren with his faith, knowledge, and love.
With love and gratitude to my Father and the Father of my children: